We believe in a lot of things when it comes to processing grief. They are sometimes mythical beliefs that it's already in our system from childhood. Some of these beliefs are true and have bases like glass urns. It is tangible and long-lasting.
On the other hand, there are myths and misconceptions that we believe through word of mouth. These myths and misconceptions affect how we deal with our emotions and how we talk with other people about how we feel. There are a few myths and misconceptions that you may be familiar with.
We all grieve differently, and it is not the same for everyone. We cry and understand grief differently. That is why we can't say that grief is linear for everyone. We may be in the same situation as we lose our loved ones. But we accept and deal with our loss differently.
We can't point who's who when it comes to grieving. When our loved ones pass on, we feel sadness and loneliness like no other. Whether you are a man or a woman, we are all emotional when it comes to matters like this. Thus, many people are saying that women are more expressive in showing what they feel than men.
Most men are reserved in showing their emotions because they feel weak about it. However, some men are open when it comes to what they feel. So these go to show that either men or women can be emotional if they want to.
We can miss our deceased loved ones since we can no longer see them and interact with them. However, staying in a feeling of grief for the rest of your life is not normal. The longer you stay in that stage may affect your mental, physical and emotional aspects. The grief you are feeling right now will change as days go by. It would no longer be the same as you felt when you had it for the first time.
People believe that if they show other people that they are crying, they are showing that they are weak. But that is not true if it is normal that you cry when you can no longer hold your tears. There is nothing wrong with crying. Crying helps you release stress. It also helps you feel relief from the heartache you feel when you lose your loved ones.
When our loved ones pass away, they are gone physically. But they will remain in our hearts. Like the glass urns where you can lay their ashes and have it as an ornament. They are never left because they live in us. They always have a room in our hearts. And it will never be empty. Though their presence is no longer with us, they left a legacy that we can tell the future generation and can brag about it.
The stages of grief are your guide on how you will be able to overcome your grief. But it does not mean that you need to impose this on yourself or your family. You are not required to go through with this guide in order as well. If you want to follow this pattern to have a smooth coping process in your life that is a choice.
You don't need to force yourself to follow this stage. Do what you think will work for you. Ask people's help if you think you can no longer bear the pain. You need to know what works for you and what is not.
We can always keep the urn of our loved ones, especially when they are made out of glass. It is a good decoration in the yard. Thus, there is no need to fear when you keep your urns. Keeping urns is good because you will have extra storage for your flowers and beautiful ornaments placed in your garden.
The list goes on about the myths and misconceptions about grieving that we have. We either applied it already, or we are discovering them right now. But what is important is that we know that we are in grief according to what we feel. We need to know our limitations. We can't stay grieving forever, we miss our loved ones every day. But it is not the same with grieving. There is a thin line between grieving and missing that we need to set in our minds. Grieving is accepting that our loved ones have passed away. But we did not lose forever because they remain in our hearts and will be remembered forever.
These beliefs are what we used to see with our grandparents or elderly at home that we were already accustomed to. But we can always have our way of how we cope with grief and how we grief.