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Losing is part of the life we have here on earth. It is innate to us, and it has always been part of who we are. We can't deny pain in our system. It will always be there, but losing someone in our family is the most painful part as we don't know how life will be after they depart. We can have the ashes made into rings to honour their journey while they are still alive.
It can be our go-to comfort whenever we want to rain check what we usually consult to them. But since they are no longer around, no one will answer all our queries about the things in our lives. You keep all the questions you have in mind. Yet, there are things that you can do with your unuttered thoughts.
Plenty of things that you can work on, and at the same time, it is your way of letting go of the things you have inside that for a long time. It is your way of letting yourself free from the emotional bondage that hinders you from setting up new stuff for your future.
The thoughts you have will run for the rest of your day, weeks, months or even years if you cannot talk about it with someone. It would help if you spoke to someone about the things you have in mind. In that way, you can think of new things and get out of those thoughts. You will never get that away from you unless you speak about it.
Whether it is about your feelings, the things that you do in a day after you lost your loved one or the unusual things that you already are doing that makes you feel weird and uncomfortable. It would help if you shared it with someone.
Suppose you are hesitant to approach other people and talk to them about anything going on in your mind. You can write them down. Write all the things you want to tell your loved one. Make it your platform to release all the worries. There will always be a time in our lives when we don't want other people to know our thoughts because we only have one person to trust when it comes to our secrets.
You can start writing with your old notebook or anything to keep all these writings for future readings. It would help if you compiled those writings because once you are already over with your grieving process, you can try reading them and maybe laugh or cry on the things you have written.
Some people use music to make their thoughts known to others. It is their way of telling the world or someone about what they are going through. If you are into making music, you can try composing a song for the people around you or how you feel after losing the person you trust the most.
It will give you relief, and at the same time, it can help other people in the same situation as you are. It would help if you unlocked new things. It is one way of comforting yourself and sending a message to your loved ones about how you feel and what you would like them to know.
When you don't want to write things or make music out of all the things you have in mind, you can paint them. There are many things you can do to inform other people about what is going on in your life right now. The only thing that makes it unknown is if you will not allow them to see it.
Never hide all that you feel, mainly when you express them through painting. Some people appreciate such art, and you never know you will touch their lives with the outcome of the things running on your mind. You may not express your grief in words that some people do when they feel suffocated or pained from losing, but you can still voice out what you think through artwork.
In expressing our thoughts, we can do what we think is convenient for us. We don't need to be fancy in sharing what's in our heads. We only need people who are willing to understand what is going on.
Unuttered thoughts can be interpreted in so many ways. It depends on your mood and on the style you want to express it. If the person you trust the most has already departed, you need to continue living. It may not be the same as when they are still alive because you can run, call and chat with them about what you want to know. And they will give their honest and unbiased opinions.
Things may change, but some remain like the love you have for them. And it's the greatest gift they have given to you. As soon as you heal from the pain, you will see the brightest sun again, and that's you.
